Hi! I’m Amy (she/they) and I’m happy you’re here! Also, I am a real person and I think it’s important you know that. Here are some things about me:
I am often chatty and friendly in real life, but I hate talking on the phone and I despise small talk. I have exactly two conversational speeds: complete silence and tell me everything.
I love long stretches of unstructured time where I can just do whatever I feel like doing. My temperament is very much like a cat, which is probably why I love cats. I want to do what I want, take a lot of naps, and I don’t like having a boss.
If I’m not consciously managing my face, I have RBF like a MF. (People perceive me as “intimidating” which I never understand, but assume is a function of this?)
I love coffee, singing, writing, and reading. I work out regularly and enjoy it, although in my heart I’m actually quite lazy and would usually prefer to lay down instead. I am obsessed with chocolate chip cookies and am always either “on” or “off” cookies; there is no in-between.
I’m in my 40s but I have a lot of freckles and tattoos so people often think I’m younger than I am. I change my hair color a lot, but I have had short hair since I was a teenager. After becoming a mom in my late 30s, I now deeply value comfortable clothes and sensible shoes; I’m all about that no bra/high-waisted pant life.
I cuss a lot when I’m in the flow of conversation, and while I’d like to say I’m working on it, I’m really not. (You know this already if you’ve watched any of my videos on Instagram.) It’s not my fault that f*** is such a versatile and useful word! If it offends you I am NOT the one for you. *shrugs*
I’m a left-handed Virgo INFJ; I’m also an Enneagram 6 and a 3/5 Emotional Manifestor, if you’re into Human Design. I have a lot of contradictory parts. As such, ambivalence is a state I regularly experience, where I can often see all sides to an issue and empathize with everyone involved.
That said, here is where I am not ambivalent: I am unapologetically and enthusiastically progressive, antiracist, pro-choice, trans-and queer-affirming. I firmly believe that gender and sexuality exist on a continuum, not a binary, and that being anywhere on the spectrum at any time is perfectly normal.
I’m happily married to a lovely, kind, brilliant cis/het Black man, and we have a smart, funny, and sweet young Black child who (so far) identifies as she/her. I don’t always love being a parent, but luckily the child I made is cool AF and I wouldn’t trade her for the world.
It should go without saying but I’ll say it anyway: Black lives really, really matter to me. I actively strive to undo the conditioning of a culture that overvalues whiteness and to decolonize my practice in all ways. I am not perfect at this. White Supremacy is a deep-rooted, systemic cultural cancer, but antiracist practice is important to me and I’m open to correction when I fall short.
If I sound like someone you would like to talk to about whatever is going on in your life, please go ahead and book yourself on my calendar. I make it super easy for you to get started because I am genuinely excited about working with you and want to help you feel better and more aligned ASAP.